BADGERING SILENCE ABSENCE

 

In peace, love, gentleness, kindness, good-will, friendship, and tenderness.  

I will not subject myself to being badgered and nagged about:  Doctor’s Visits, Dentists Visits, Recycling.  None of my communication of my conclusions on these three topics has been received or accepted.  I have stated my views and values on these topics over five times and all five times my communication and conclusions have not been accepted. 

Admittedly I have sinned in resorting to anger and shouting after being told four or five times during each of the five encounters,

“Why don’t you want to go to the doctor, dentist?  You should go to the doctor, dentist;  This is not where recycling goes;  This is what they want to do.  This is how we honor God by taking care of our bodies.  This is what my Mom and Dad did, this is why unbelievers and adults do.”

               My attempt to communicate my conclusions on these three questions and assertions has not been received despite five responses per encounter and despite five separate encounters.  Since my communication is not working and since anger and shouting is a sin, the only other solution that I can think of at the moment is to try the technique of: “Silence and absence.”

Silence and absence may mean getting in my car and driving out 8 hours to a safe quiet place and then coming home when my wife is willing to not badger me on these three areas; or, silence and absence may mean a 24 hour absence as I find a private hotel that I can sleep at with the hopes my wife is willing to accept and receive the conclusions I have attempted to give five times each during five separate encounters while discussing the three exact same questions.

This letter is an accountability letter for me, my wife, and others as documented testimony.  Since my communication and my conclusions on these three topics, recommendations, questions has not been heard, and since anger is not a godly solution to being badgered, then in peace, love, gentleness, kindness, good-will, and tenderness I will see if silence and absence protect me from what I perceive as mental and emotional abuse from my wife. 

I am being blamed for being angry, but she is granting herself the freedom to direct my actions or at least interrogate my actions in regards to these three topics.  I take it to be a form of verbal,  mental, and emotional bullying;  Always granting yourself the position to “Ask why won’t you, and you should” and always granting yourself the position of “you must subject yourself to my questions and my recommendations in these three areas.

If I don’t ride horses then I will never get thrown off a horse, and if I stay clear away from a horse then it will be less likely that a horse will ever kick me.  If I cannot tame a horse through speech or through anger, then I will simply avoid the horse.  If I cannot subdue badgering through speech or through anger, then I will simply avoid the person badgering me.  Thus I will attempt to escape the situation of badgering through 3 hour, 8 hour, or 24 hour vacations with the intention of bring peace for others, and mental and emotional safety for myself.

This is 9:30 a.m. on Sunday Morning December 10^th 2023; which is after an dispute that happened yesterday, which is at least the fifth time in 3 years that these 3 topics getting resurfacing.  I pleaded for her to sign a paper at the end of the third dispute when she promised to never bring up doctor’s and dentists again.  I hope I can avoid being badgered in the future, and that I can handle badgering in a peaceful way.